I try to keep my posts on the lighter side. I don’t like to get heavy about many things, especially not in a blog, since I get about 50 hits about a day and I don’t know who half the people are who read this thing. But I have very strong opinions about some things (well, lots of things, but this in particular), and I have to voice them the best way I know how.

Warning: I will be typing in streams of consciousness, so lots of this won’t make sense, but trust me, I will get my point across.

When I was little, maybe like 9 years old or so, I came home from school to find my father on top of my mom, pulling her hair out and screaming in her face. My mom was also screaming, moreso in pain than anger, she was crying and trying to fight off my dad. Once my father realized I was standing there watching him, he got up, dusted himself off, patted me on the head and with a smile asked, “Any homework?”

It was the first time I realized there was something going on that shouldn’t have been. I’m almost certain that wasn’t the first time and from then on, my father was more open about it. He’d slap my mom at the dinner table; at parties or other people’s homes, he’d pull her to the other room and yell at her. He just stopped caring who knew.

Eventually, I got old enough to defend my mom. I mean, she was everything to me. I was a mama’s boy. It was all very strange to me because my mom had always been a very independent person, very strong-willed, but around my father, she became a child. All I wanted to do was protect her. Think about it: when you love someone, really love someone, the last thing you want to do is see them hurt, and you certainly don’t want to be the one that causes them pain. If someone else hurt them, you would have their head. My dad was a big guy though. Trying to fight him was like Screech going up against Mike Tyson.

So when I hear people defending someone who allegedly physically abused their girlfriend, it makes me sick and very >:O at them.

• “She must have hit him first for him to go off like that.”
  First of all, in what alternate universe is it socially acceptable for a man to put his hands on a woman at all? Isn’t it fact that men are physically stronger than women? Unless she was a bodybuilder or had a gun to his head, I don’t think her socking it to him a few times hurts as much as him socking her in the face and choking her.
• “I’m sure she deserved it.”
  No one fucking deserves that! I don’t care if she kicked his dog off the freeway or was cheating on him, never in a million years does a man hit a girl.
• “Well, he came from an abusive home and it’s a hard cycle to break blah blah blah.”
  That’s such a fucking pussy excuse I can’t even stand it. I will be perfectly frank, I once shoved my ex-girlfriend into a wall, but when I did, I immediately freaked out and started crying and apologizing. I didn’t run off into the fucking woods after leaving her unconscious. How anyone with a conscience does that is beyond me. It’s bullshit.
• “She’s probably just lying because she’s jealous of his success.”
  One thing to say about that: Oh, go fuck yourself. She’s been with him this entire time and it’s all going to go down in flames in a huge way because she’s “jealous of his success”?

Everyone is certainly innocent until proven guilty; however, with no official statements (unlikely, considering the circumstances), silence is an admission of guilt in my book so take the wool off from over your fucking eyes and get a clue. Anyone who believes it’s okay to hit a girl even if she’s “asking for it” needs to get their head checked and possibly some anger management classes because it’s likely these are the same people who are either being abused by their boyfriend, watched someone get beat, or beats their girlfriend on a regular basis. You’re an enabler and I thank goodness the laws on domestic abuse are getting much more strict because too many people turn the other cheek. By hitting a girl and thinking it’s okay, you’re allowing everyone else in the world to beat up your sister, rape your daughter and kill your mother. There’s no gray area here, kiddos.

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