All of my friends are getting married (I think they’re making a mistake).
Well, to be fair, I don’t think they’re ALL making mistakes. I’ve dated the girls that are marrying other people, and the other day, someone asked me if I thought it was weird. Four ex-girlfriends are going to commit the rest of their lives to other men. Is it weird? Nah. They’re all great girls, and they’re going to make their boyfriend/fiance very happy. It isn’t weird because we’ve had our time, and I didn’t think they were the right girls for me. They understood this, which is why it’s okay to be happy for them. There’s no ill feelings toward each other because we all parted ways with some dignity.
But my guy friends, that’s another story. These were the same guys who hung out with me in college, swearing up and down, weekend after weekend, all while downing 3 or 4 beers, that they could neeeeeever see themselves getting married. “How is it possible to stay with someone for the rest of your life? I would get so sick of it.”
Disclaimer: If you’re one of my guy friends’ fiancees who happens to stumble upon this (not sure how you would, honestly), not all of them said this, and I will never disclose those who were vocal about their anti-marriage sentiment. Obviously, things have changed if they bought you a ring. No need to be insecure over college shit-talking.
Maybe it’s been a while, and maybe I’m completely wrong about them and they’ve done a 180, but I worry they may realize they’re getting married for the wrong reasons. Boys are finicky. We get antsy with routine, and we may decide that the disadvantages outweigh the benefits in what’s supposed to be a lifetime of marital bliss.
Who knows, maybe I’m the one who’s bitter because I haven’t found a decent girl with whom to settle down, and those who have potential think I fuck anything that moves.
Regardless, I’ve been invited to all of their weddings, many of them of which are currently without set dates, and when I do, I’ll wear a nice suit and tie and be happy for them and what will hopefully be a promising and fulfilling life together. I’ve never been one to hesitate with the “I told you so”s when they’re warranted though.
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